Today…. I was bitchy.

Today did not start out well at all. I hadn’t bought enough of the things I knew I’d want to eat, my eldest seems to LOVE my cucumber slices… and I woke up hungry, with the wonderfully delicious smell of … Continue reading

It’s my Day 3!!! :)

YAY!!!! I feel wonderful. It’s just that simple, I. feel. wonderful. The simple words, 10 Day Transformation, are the cause of this. Purium is the cause of this. I feel amazing. I know it’s only day 3, I still have … Continue reading

Say Hello

to a “Healthier Me”. Today is the 24 of July and I started my ’10-Day Celebrity Transformation’. I decided, after looking up a lot of things and reading many more items, that this is probably my one shot to being … Continue reading

Musings From An Upset Mind

Now… lately there seems to be a string of childish behavior. An epidemic really, and I’d like to address it.

I can’t voice any one else’s opinion on this subject, as I don’t know it, but I can voice mine and so far all I can come up with is – Some people need to grow the *insert any word of choice here* up!!!!

We are adults, childish behavior needs to be left behind with the childhood, or in some cases “teen”, years and if you still feel the need to act like an adolescent then feel free to put on a diaper and grab a bottle. Childish behavior helps no-one and gains you absolutely no sympathizers, although in some cases as people tend to lie quiet well they do have some.
How I wish the truth could be voiced to them but what good would it do? We must wait on Karma, as people will always “reap what they sow”in the end.

Now, this type of behavior does, howsoever, in most cases gain you the title of “Self-Centered B****”, be you male or female. It gains you the ability to look like someone who hasn’t learned that the world doesn’t revolve around you, and is able to isolate you into a place that no-one wants to be.

I’m tired of the “Poor, Poor Pity Me” trip and people who tell lies to gain whatever gram of sympathy they can from people who truly just want to love you for you and be there as family, friends, to just be together.

I guess that’s all I have to say on this now other than, No-one is a pawn to be used by another. We are all individuals who create our own happiness and are entitled to that happiness as well as keeping that freewill that allows us to keep those who wish to bring us down out of our lives.

The flip-side of this is that when those who have wronged us may or may not be able to enter our lives without a door being there for them to use.
 So when/if we tell those who continually bring us headaches to take a hike because we don’t need, nor desire the stress they induce upon our lives, we should also allow them the door to enter our lives again. We can accept the apology, or just accept that they have changed, until evidence contrary to this presents it’s self. And hopefully those who are family will realize we love them and want them as a member of our lives, but we hold the right to be individuals without requiring their permission to be who we are. We also hold the right to kick them out again should they begin the same BS again. Unlike a child… an “Adult” doesn’t require more than one chance, and is old enough to know that a true apology means they WON’T repeat the behavior and will do all that is necessary to prevent a repeat performance. 


These are my thoughts and now that it is off my chest I feel slightly better. I hope this little rant of mine can help another but if not, It does help me.

Warmest Wishes and Wonderful Thoughts to you,

Ya-Ya

P.S. Do not let the “Emotional Vampires” of the world “suck the life” out of your day. Be strong, and continue being positive.

Who are You?

The Most Creative Act you will ever undertake is The Act of Creating Yourself

   As the image states above… “The most creative Act You will ever undertake is the Act of Creating Yourself” .

   So what does that mean?  To me it says that we all create ourselves into the people we either want to be or think we should be, and sometimes into who we believe others think/want us to be; but in the end, We are the ones that make the choices.

   So how important is it to our creation of self that our perception of ourselves is untainted/not influenced by our peers? To me it is very important to the process. For better or worse we create ourselves according to what we have been taught is proper and valued.

   Our views and values of the world and self, including how and when we start our life with another person is created by our peers. For better or for worse we are the creation of others and very rarely do we have the ability and courage to re-create ourselves into someone who we truly love and want to be. An unfortunate thing since the world’s perception of ourselves shouldn’t matter but the perception of those we love and cherish, including yourself, should be whom we wish to make happy.

   The only person we should ever change for is ourselves, and as long as we have an excellent network of friends and family to support us we become that beautiful butterfly that is our creative soul bursting free of the shackles that society has put upon us. Yes, we do make the choice at first to allow the shackles to be put on because we believe that it is how we are supposed to live. We then, at a later date when we are teens or adults, either make the choice to keep these restraints or to shuck them off and create our own sense of self with our own value systems, be they right or wrong by our peers standards we grew up with.

   There are also the people whom, after marriage and either before, during or after children, realizes that they have wish to change whom society and peers say they are and re-create themselves into whom they truly are. Sometimes this is a true change, and sometimes this is just realizing that they don’t wish to be shackled to the same old same old but wish to be the creative soul that has bounced around until caught in a cage and hidden away because it just wasn’t proper anymore.

   I’m not speaking of an evil or hurtful change or of someone leaving their children and just running off because of this self-realization, I’m speaking of just letting that tiny little voice that you’ve told to be quiet speak up and allow yourself to be the artist within. Allow yourself to put on a cute little crazy hat and go for a walk in the rain because YOU love it and want to. Allow yourself that simple pleasure that you’ve been told to avoid because it just isn’t proper and right. Be Yourself, not the Stepford-drone.

Become Your True Self

In the end, the butterfly or the caterpillar, is our choice of self and our choice of who we want to be, and right now I believe that there are a lot of people whom are in the metamorphic stages of creating themselves anew.  I hope that someday soon all will be their own butterfly and we all will spread our wings to fly on wings of choice and creativity.

Lots of love and Hoping this helps someone,

Ya-Ya 🙂

15 Ways Build Your Confidence or, in my case,15 Things to change to be called a B**ch

   A friend of mine shared this picture with me and I read it thinking… yes I’ve done this and I did that and I’m working on those. Then I thought about it and realized, I’ve done all of those and the biggest one I’ve done is to start putting my own needs before my own instead of always putting others first, and for my effort I was labelled a “Selfish Bitch”.

All the other times when I’ve bent over backwards for other people and put their issues before my own is forgotten in that one instant when I evaluated the two and decided that what I had to do for myself was more important than another person’s issue. How, you may ask, is this possible? Well I’ve come to the conclusion, after a few times of this happening, that people, by definition, are selfish.

Now I truly believe that you should help your neighbor and love your neighbor as you do yourself because, honestly, it makes YOU the better person, and if they hate you for it then so be it because they are hating you for being a positive being and that’s OK with me. (I have massive issues with that one because there are some people who just rube you the wrong way lol)

But let’s get back to the 15 things listed above and break it down one by one into practicality and why you should give it up, or something like that.

  1. Doubting Yourself…. That’s a biggy there. Self Doubt is the most destructive of all of these because it leads to almost all of them happening. Doubting yourself leads to doubting whether you should or shouldn’t do something and you usually end up saying you shouldn’t even try to do it because you can’t. Come on… The first step is to TRY IT and remember ” Every Professional was once the Amateur Beginner”.
  2. Negative Thinking …..  This is a hard one. Thinking in and of its self is both positive and negative. We have to think in both terms if we are to come to the best conclusive outcome in any given situation. The point being made here howsoever is that we must stop the type of negative thinking that says “That will never work”, “That’s a horrible idea, why are you even considering that” and so and so forth. This is the type of Negative Thinking that stops you before you even begin and is truly the downfall of many people who have the brilliance to succeed.
  3. Fear of Failure …. Another biggy here. The Fear of Failure is ingrained in all of us do to being taught that we must “fit in”. A small child does not fear failure, they are taught to fear it. To a child the world is their play toy and every thing is possible, from the Monster under the bed to Santa Claus. Moms and Dads the world over are heroes at bed time because they CAN slay the monsters and if you truly believe you CAN fly. When they grow up they CAN be ANYTHING they want to be, so why do we teach them to be afraid of failing? Why do we, ourselves, have to be ok with failing? We don’t and we shouldn’t count ourselves out before even beginning but we can be ok with the failed attempt, should it even happen. Remember – You can never win, if at first you don’t try.
  4. Destructive Relationships ….. Now this is one that seems to be in the running for the WORST decisions made lately. How can any one ever hope to have a healthy, long-lasting relationship if we continually keep making the wrong choices? I know that I’m just as guilty as the next person because, let’s face it, if you already know it’s going to fail then you aren’t as hurt when it happens and you’ve already built up that defensive wall to safe-guard your heart right? WRONG!!!! You can build up that wall and you can consciously and sub-consciously make that choice, that horrible horrible choice, to date the same destructive types and be in the same destructive relationships over and over and over again but you can NEVER safe-guard that heart from becoming invested and in turn ruining yourself to the possibility of something good and someone who can truly be the best for you.  Trust me on this, I know.Now there is the flip side to this and that is STAYING in a Destructive Relationship, I.E. the abusive type. You can enter a wonderful, truly magnificent relationship and truly, whole-heartily be in love with this person that you have every intention of spending the rest of your life with. You have the cliché white picket fence and 2.5 kids and the whole she-bang but something happened along the way to this quiet little blissful dream becoming fulfilled and you and/or your children (should you have them) are now the recipients of mental, emotional, physical or other types of abuse and that my dears is a very DESTRUCTIVE Relationship. Should you decide to stay in such a type of relationship I do hope you take into consideration the damage that can and will be inflicted upon your young, innocent, impressionable children. They are, after all, YOUR responsibility, and if you do happen to want my advice, it is this: Get out while the gettin’ is good, and It’s never to late.
  5. Gossiping …. To my way of thinking, There is nothing worse than a “Gossip”. I absolutely abhor gossiping because it tends to do nothing but destroy people’s lives. Not just the person whom is being gossiped about but the person doing the gossiping. To many people have things said about them or done to them because of someone deciding they were bored and wanted to see just what would happen if this and this was said. OR, someone misunderstood what was being said (ever play that old game ‘telephone’?  How often did the end resemble the beginning?) and spread a vicious or ludicrous lie, which in turn ruined someone’s self-esteem and person. So basically… You shouldn’t gossip.
  6. Criticizing Yourself and Others …. Ok so we all know and have heard that our own worst critic is our-self?  Well that has to change, somewhat, because if you are always horrible to yourself your going to start believing it. Give yourself a hand now and then as well as an ‘Atta-Boy’ because while critiquing yourself is a good thing complimenting yourself is even better when it’s a job well done.As for criticizing others :  Ever heard of Murphy’s Law? I think that pretty much says it all
  7. Anger …. Some say there is Righteous Anger and that that is ok.. Others say there is nothing good about anger as it is self-destructive being that there was never a good outcome from a decision made in anger. I think that in some cases anger can fuel you to do incredible things that you would have never been able to do and those things might be good. Howsoever, the end result is pretty much always bad so cooling off before doing anything is always a good idea. Give yourself a “time out” before acting 😉 That’s my rule of thumb.
  8. Comfort Eating …. Never has a woman known better than the end result of this. Every woman, teenage girl and child knows what comfort eating is and the effects it has upon our psyche and our bodies. I’m sure there are men who do this as well because it’s not possible for only one side of the sexes to have the sole hold of this department and I do hope that they too are able to see and understand the destructiveness of this continued behavior. Therefore, I believe, I don’t need to say any more on the topic other than to please, find a better outlet. Pick up a notebook and pen/pencil set from the local dollar store and write it out, take a walk, go find a “quiet spot” all your own, take up some sort of hobby you can pour your soul into and let that be your healing.
  9. Laziness …. Every person who has ever been a child knows that this is bad. There is a time and a place for everything so make sure that being lazy isn’t your constant but your occasional.
  10. Negative Self Talk …. Again… the same as #1 … they kinda go hand in hand. You have to be positive with your self because sometimes all you have in your cheering section for you to succeed is YOURSELF.
  11. Procrastination …. umm….. umm…. Yea… I’m seriously bad with this and while I know it’s a bad thing I’ve done excellent with it myself in school work and whatnot so I’m not truly objectionable enough to tell you why it’s bad. I can tell you that if you procrastinate your life away and never take that step forward that opportunity will pass you by and you’ll be left behind so it IS important that you not procrastinate in everything but an occasional procrastination I am sure is ok.. maybe not lol Like I said.. I’m not the best example to follow on this one.
  12. Fear of Success …. There are people who have this fear and it is a legitimate fear and best dealt with by speaking to a trained professional. The first step though is realizing that you DO have this fear and WANTING to seek help with/for it.
  13. Anything Excessive …. Well I think that pretty much sums it up. Yes, women do tend to have a lot of shoes… when you have so many you require your own closet for just shoes that would be excessive… get rid of some of them. Yes, men tend to put a lot into the vehicle they love… when the vehicle gets more attention, money spent on it, love from you then your family, children, wife, gf, bf does… that would be excessive… do something about it. Everything in moderation, please.
  14. People Pleasing …. hmmm I am a people pleaser, I know this and I try to work on it. First step to doing so is realizing that in being a people pleaser your denying half of yourself it’s rightful joy in life by sacrificing yourself for the enjoyment and pleasure of other people. There are many examples I could give here but I think you can come up with a few. The joy of another should not harm you. The pleasure/enjoyment of a group should not cause you harm.And last but not least ….
  15. Putting Others Needs BEFORE Your OWN …. Didn’t I start out this little article with WHY this is a bad thing and WHEN it’s ok and whatnot?  But, I’ll re-iterate, You should NEVER put someone-else’s needs before your own when it causes heartache or injury to yourself or those you love. When it goes against your moral convictions You should not put their needs above your own. When You are constantly bending over backwards to give others what they want and denying yourself your own needs and wishes then you are people pleasing and putting others needs before your own and those are two things that you should not do as it denies your “Id” and that can lead to massive problems.

In short … We all know what is negative and  bad behavior and it’s time we took account of our own actions and put some positive back into our lives. This change is best made when we start with ourselves and how we view ourselves and treat ourselves. Be Positive and see just what a world of difference it makes within you, even if you only do it for a day.

I challenge everyone who reads this post/article/blog to try and stop doing these 15 negative things for 1 day… then 1 week .. see what a happier and healthier you it creates within you and travels to others.

Take care and Blessings,

Ya-Ya 😉

{Referencing the “Id” – According to Sigmund Freud, there are three parts to someones personality. The Id, the Ego and the Superego. The Id deals with our primitive drives. Its goals are the seeking of pleasure and the avoidance of pain. The Ego knows what things are real and that behaviors have consequences. The Superego represents our morals and sense of right and wrong.}